You’re never too old


Our Souls at Night by Kent Haruf

Book Review – 5 star rating

Addie Moore, a woman in her 70’s, pay her neighbor, Louis Waters, a visit. They’ve both been alone for many years as their spouses are deceased and Addie tells Louis that she’s lonely.  Instead of asking him to go for coffee, she surprisingly tells him that the nights are the loneliest time for her and she has an interesting proposal for him.  She wants him to spend nights with her, in her bed, talking and easing each other’s loneliness.  No sex expected or really desired, just companionship through the lonely nights.  They don’t really know each other very well but Louis accepts, since he also found the nights to be lonely.

What was most surprising about this short novel certainly wasn’t Addie’s proposal. What was so very surprising was the negative reaction of their neighbors and their grown children.   How very nice it was that Addie and Louis had found each other after so many years alone.  No one objects when young people find love and companionship.  Just because people grow older doesn’t mean they can’t find happiness.  It was infuriating to me to see others trying to interfere with what Addie and Louis had.  Why do people have to be so small minded?  Maybe Addie and Louis didn’t go about it in the “traditional” manner but that was their business.

This is a beautifully written book about love in the golden years. I’ve never read this author before and am saddened to read that he has passed away and this was his last book.  I’ll be looking into reading his other books.  What I’m very excited to learn is that this book will be made into a movie in 2017 starring Robert Redford and Jane Fonda.

Highly recommended.


9 thoughts on “You’re never too old

  1. This does sound good, and the RR/JF film will be on my watch list. It is quite odd that acceptance of the non-traditional ways is easier in the young than the old(er). I guess it denies people the right to surprise other people around them, which really should be a right open to anyone.
    I have a friend who is retired and who, after his wife passed away, decided to “become a teenager again” (they married very young and he’d never had the chance to be a “teen”), by which he means nothing more than to try new things and do what he enjoys doing (mostly art – he’s become a poet). Apparently his family disapproves. I say kudos to him.


    1. How wonderful that your retired friend has become a poet and is trying new things. That’s what a bucket list is all about – getting the chance to try things you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t taken the time to do yet. We all should have some of that in our lives. And we should never give up on finding love in our lives. I guess families think that when you get older, you should just go sit in that rocking chair and rock the rest of your life away. Kudos to your friend and kudos to anyone at any age who wants to branch out and try new experiences.

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    1. You’re welcome, Sally. Thank you for sharing those encouraging words with us. How wonderful to hear of someone writing his first book at age 80! As my mother used to say, “You never know where your feet will lead you” so as long as we’re on this earth, who knows what waits ahead for us!

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    1. Most definitely sad and infuriating, Caroline. They should have had the freedom to live their lives as they saw fit. They weren’t hurting anyone. A clear case of discrimination against the elderly.


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